Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Dear Friends,
Greetings, few learnings was guessing might be interesting to share here. Winners have an attitude to excell in every situation and say in every moment. Now the question is the attitude. Many have the opinnion of winning only is possible when someone must loose the game, winning is a kind of competition where there can be only one winner. If some one has these kind of attitude then one can definitly garuntee ones failure after their first win. This period of time demands a winner in you but not at the cost of others loosing.
Winner need a win -win attitude, that is you win and also help others who is along with you in your,
1) Family
2) Neighbhours
3) Friends
4) Colleagues
5) Team Members
etc.. too wins. This I am of the opinion is true winning. Human are soical beings and you cannot win alone because from the day one of your journey you taken something from others, remember as children we take from our parents, brothers, sisters, relatives, friends, peers etc. and as we grow up we expect others should and must listen to ourselves and if we feel them over powering then one completely avoids the whole situation. Here it is to learn, as learning is a process, we help others also to see, hear and feel themselves a winner and this is an responsibility of true winner, whom I am very much with. The winner who makes the other a leader is THE LEADER.
We had been taught from child, to manage and handle relationships better, in a most advanced levels been finding parents teaching communication tactics of what the learn and follow personaly in their personal relation to their children. This we call it as conditioning and this is good as far as the child wants to win at the expense of others, though this is more diplomatic and hypocritical.
If one is a WINNER then there is no,
Inhibition, fear of failure, fear of loosing within. one is very much stabkle, satisfied, self contended, knows what it is from all points of view and one can find the winner as resourceful and self initiated and motivated and well towards reaching his/her objective not much invovled in other unnecessary matters, issues away from what is needed keeping and working a relationship of independence.
Dependence - Autocratic leaders want others to be dependent on them, as I call these kind as MASTERS -SLAVE relationship.
Interdependence - Diplomatic and Hypocritical leadership style fall under this category ehich is very much all together fall under present day leadership and this has been taught everywhere.
Independent - A true relationship knowing what can be needed, with transperency in communication, genuinity and integrity with all, being and identifying one with members of team, sharing responsibilities equally, coaching subtely to identify the resources to excell and evolve in all areas and helping them to take the ownership of their success.
By the way when everything is over... just leaving unidentified as if done nothing is what I mean a TRUE LEADER, WINNER...

Regards,
Shihan C.J.Jeyachander,
Facilitator, Coach, Consultant, Spiritual Being..

Monday, September 6, 2010

Dear Friends,
Greetings, Winners are winners by the way when the whole life has been viewed as GESTALT that is whole not in parts. For others a moment of someone may be successful and winning but for the person sometimes they may not feel it as winning.

Samrat Ashoka the great emperor who had the thrust to win and fought a battel which was extradinary during his time as this is even standing today as everyone of us know about it but for him when he was visiting the battle field after the war he could witness something were his minds proportion of winning was totally distroyed by the bodies lying dead and the pain running deep into the nerves of people suffering loosing their near and dear as wifes missing husbands, mother their sons, sons and daughter their father etc.

No compensation can help the others who fought in the battle field for each one of them it is a failure and for their families where the bread winners have gone now what is remaining is the great question.

It is the perception of a person which decides the WINNING standard not the situation on the whole.

Ashoka who was an emperor with great intellectual ability of discrimination as well as intelligence took a great feedback from the battle field and said to himself that he had misserable failed though it was a victory for him as well as his empire but as an emperor of self consciousness his divine self had shinned within him to make him realize that it was an failur for him.

But the war on the whole which was an winning to him but an failure for the whole human race of his time but then he became an buddist monk and all his life he became instrumental in spreading buddist philosophy around to spread love and kindness which is an great victory of his life personally as well as socially.

Dr.C.J.Jeyachander...

Friday, February 5, 2010

Dear Friends,
Greetings from us, after long might be we may be wondering but to realize how fast the clock is ticking. Time just runs faster and what had been done by us?.

Success come to people who are ready to take the feedback and capitalize on it

What does the above statement mean?

Every moment that one face is nothing but an experience. This experience is been experienced by the person or the experiencer which is uniquely their own. Most of us don't consider this first of all and take responsibility on their own, instead they put their blame on the other person, situation and circumstances.

To be clear here, it is ones own self which is creating a meaning based on which the projection been carried out in mind. This projection is been projected on the mental screen. Meaning conceived is only from ones own mind and other than yours no one had shown, said your mind to conceive the way it had done in a moment. This formation of meaning in a situation is based on the past experience that had been experienced and stored in mind.

Successful people know that every moment is new and they are open to feedbacks that they receive and their way of action is towards achieving the common goal. The average person just react because of their mental projection as they take it as criticism of their self and want to defend themselves finding out ways and means to rationalize that they are right.

Now the crux here is not just reading will help but to internalize by becoming aware of whats happening to you subjectively and objectively just answer,

1) I am I acting or reacting
2) I am I feeling bad of others, situation
3) I am I blaming
4) I am I finding faults on others
5) I am I just leaving my action of taking now on the circumstances

If you answer the above then you might observe yourself becoming outcentered than self centered. Success is a process and it is not that you do once then you can forget about it for long thats what many are assuming till they reach a point where they start reacting.

Let us make this process our own and our life better.

Regards,
Shihan C.J.J.C
www.basixinc.org .